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I Blog Because….

May 23, 2013 in Finish-The-Sentence Friday

I Blog Because….

I try to finish that sentence a lot. Like almost every day. And on most days, my answer is the same: Because I Love To Write.

On other days, I DO wonder why I blog and why I put so much work into each post, and why I worry about gaining readers, and why I still feel as if I have no idea what I’m doing when it comes to social media, SEO (that stands for Search Engine Optimization for you non-bloggers), and anything else regarding blog promotion. In other words, I constantly wonder WHY HAVE I BEEN TORTURING MYSELF TRYING TO BE A SUCCESSFUL BLOGGER?!?

To answer that question, I’ll back up a bit and explain why I started to blog in the first place.   It all began when I wrote a book — more specifically, a memoir.  I haven’t tried to publish it yet because I’ve been told many a time that I should establish a writer’s platform. I was envisioning a stage or a train platform, something I’d stand upon and proclaim, “I’m a writer!” But no, these knowledgeable writer types are referring to being published previously.

Oh yeah, that.

I have had articles and essays published in magazines and online. I know, you’re impressed. So what if they were published in 1998, right? Well, um wrong. I knew I had to get cracking and get some more recent writing credits to my name, but since I had been focusing on the book for the past few years, I wasn’t actively trying to market any other work. That was when the blog suggestion became more appealing.

I had tried blogging once before and failed miserably. I posted on it maybe ten times and then gave up. At the time, I didn’t realize that my blog had absolutely no focus and I had no clue about how to maintain it. Since I am the Queen of taking online classes, I signed up for a blogging class and within weeks, had my editorial calendar set and domain name secured soon after. That was about nine months ago.

What I’ve discovered since Oh Boy Mom’s launch is that now I blog for all kinds of reasons, not just to become a published author. Although that is still a goal of mine, I’m not even so sure I want to publish my memoir anymore. It was important to me to write it, but I’d be okay if I didn’t publish it. What I’ve discovered during these past nine months is that I gave birth not to a child (please God no…I am done, done, done and also way too old, old, old), but to a whole new writing world for myself.

I blog because I now see how I can gain access to a variety of other writing opportunities. Perhaps I will publish a book, whether it is my memoir or a different type of book. Or maybe I will become a regular contributor to a site like Babble (hint, hint) or NickMom (hint, hint again). And maybe I will even get paid (like in real money!) for some other writing gigs down the road. I know it could happen. The potential is exciting.

In the meantime, I’m going to keep on blogging because I not only love to write, but I need to write. And, I am curious to see where this journey takes me next.

(And I hope you’ll continue to stay with me on this road…don’t you want to see where I end up?)

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Lisa @ The Golden Spoon May 23, 2013 at 10:15 pm

I often start with “because I love to write as well” but I think I am going in the opposite direction. I started out with no experience, no idea what I was doing. Now I have bigger aspirations. However, I’m still not exactly sure what those are! #FTSF

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 6:41 pm

That’s okay — just keep following your passions and the rest will follow. I know that sounds cliche, but I do believe in that mantra.

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Janine Huldie May 23, 2013 at 10:17 pm

Totally will be staying with you on this road and seriously so happy that I got to know you through blogging. And I am so with you on loving to write and just can’t stop myself. So like you here I am and the thoughts of possibly getting paid to contribute somewhere else someday would be nice I admit, too!! Thank you so very much for linking up with us this week!! :)

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 6:38 pm

I feel the same Janine and can’t stop the bug to write either. And I’d say you’re well on your way to paid writing gigs!

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Stephanie @ Mommy, for real. May 23, 2013 at 10:25 pm

You and I have a lot in common in terms of why we started doing this and what we are hoping to get out of it, and what we ARE getting out of it. I really enjoyed reading this, and found I related to so many things you said! I kind of love the topic this week- so interesting!

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 6:37 pm

I agree – This was a great topic and so much fun to read about people’s stories of “why” they blog. Glad to be on this journey alongside you!

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Kristi Campbell May 23, 2013 at 10:28 pm

Emily,
I ask myself why I blog every single day too, and am grateful in some ways that today’s FTSF prompt was this as I’ve been struggling with it more and more now that I’m working part-time again.
Your voice is awesome and I’m sure that any day (!) you will get picked up by Babble or similar. You deserve it and in this huge weird crazy bloggie world, I’m so glad that you’re one that I found in my earliest days.

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 6:35 pm

Same here sista…and when we are both famous blogger writer types, we can both say, “I knew her when…” And if that doesn’t happen, well at least we had fun trying. :)

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Kristi Campbell May 27, 2013 at 9:40 pm

True to the “we had fun trying” part. But personally? I so prefer the other scenario. ;)

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Katia May 23, 2013 at 10:53 pm

You’ve described the emotional journey of a blogger so accurately! I ask myself the same questions, made some of the same realizations halfway through and aspire to some of the same goals. Great post and I am so happy that you blog!

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:32 pm

And likewise – glad you could relate to my “why” of blogging. It’s a tough road, but still happy I’m on it.

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Jean Heff May 23, 2013 at 11:09 pm

I like how you expressed yourself in this, especially how you showed that your purpose for this blog has evolved over time. Also, you are the first person who has explained SEO to me. Yeah, I’m new-new.

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:31 pm

I may have defined SEO for you, but I still have no idea how to use it within my blog..I’m not as new as you, but still kind of clueless about a lot of this blogging stuff. :)

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Melanie Chisnall May 24, 2013 at 5:45 am

I feel similar about blogging right now….building up a writer’s platform before publishing another book, especially the one I’m thinking about for the end of the year or early next year. I love reading your blog every day. For me, I blog because it’s a place to escape to. Kind of like my happy place. Except of course if it’s been a bad day. But that’s only once in a blue moon!

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:29 pm

Yes, I like how you put that — that a blog is like a happy place/escape. So true.

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karen May 24, 2013 at 9:55 am

Great post, I think we all started off with one reason and made discoveries about ourselves. Now we blog for many reasons and you are right, we NEED to blog.

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:28 pm

Yes, I think the need to blog is what separates the long-term bloggers from the short-term bloggers who fizzle out quickly.

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Jessica Smock May 24, 2013 at 9:59 am

My story is very similar to yours. I started off with the same reason for blogging (well, except for the fact that I hadn’t actually written the book yet), but now I’ve discovered so many other opportunities in the online world. I, for one, would LOVE to read your book!

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:26 pm

I’d love to have you read it Jessica…you’ll be interested to know that some of it takes place in Minnesota too. (I think you live there, right?)

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Cyndi May 24, 2013 at 10:02 am

Hmm…I started blogging after writing my memoir, and I haven’t published it, yet, either. Hmm…I haven’t published because…welll…it’s scary. So, I’m building a blog following…so maybe I’ll get the thing published. I still need to edit two or three more times. Hmm…maybe I’ll work on that today. :)
In any case, I hope you have a wonderful Friday!

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:24 pm

Ha – your thought process sounds just like mine Cyndi! I definitely need to edit again — and again. Ugh. But yes, at least it’s Friday! :)

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Surprise Mama May 24, 2013 at 1:02 pm

Thank you so much for this post. You are like the future of myself blogging. I am still so new that I am amazed and impressed daily with the road/roads that people take on this blogging path. I am glad to have found you and I look forward to reading more about your journey.

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:22 pm

Thanks so much and you will see as a newbie that your blogging future is right here, right now! Looking forward to following your blog too. :)

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Ruchira May 24, 2013 at 1:36 pm

I find you a darn good blogger, Emily.

Continue blogging and hope your hints come true :)

TGIF

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:20 pm

Ha – thanks Ruchira. And I love your blog too. :)

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Julie' May 24, 2013 at 2:59 pm

SO many of us share your same dream Emily. It’s a hard road- the blogging/author thing. But you have a shot at it. Your writing is great!!!

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:20 pm

Likewise Julie! Yes, this is a tough road, but I’m happy to be traveling it with you and the other bloppy’s too!

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Roshni May 24, 2013 at 3:22 pm

That is so very honest! Yes, aren’t we all trying to get our name up there so we can get published?! But, as you mention, I too found this amazing community and I so enjoy writing so that all of you come over to comment! I’m so grateful to have found my tribe!

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 5:19 pm

I feel the same gratefulness Roshni…I’m not sure that came through in my post, but you’re right, having a community/tribe is so important to me!

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Terrye May 24, 2013 at 5:42 pm

Those are some fantastic reasons to blog, especially the writing for yourself. And I have no doubt that there are great things coming down the pipe for you. :)

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 6:34 pm

Likewise TT! I can’t wait to see where we all end up!

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clark May 24, 2013 at 7:14 pm

I did not have the slightest hint that I would end up writing a blog, much less for as long as I have been at it. There is nothing I can see in my life up to the time I started the blog that would suggest I would get anything out it. But then, this blogging thing is so much more than writing… at least for me.
Its good to hear (from your Post and the Comments of the others) that I am not alone in the watching (of) site stats, wondering about getting a following and somehow gaining popularity.
The most remarkable thing for me is that this blog writing has never been ‘work’.
I have never hated having to write a Post ( I *have* hated my lack of skill, even lack of emotional range), but never have I thought ”shit, I have to right another Post’.
What would totally have blow my mind, if you had stopped me before I published the first Post and said,
“hey you hit that button and your world will expand in ways that you just plain cannot anticipate. You will come to know people that you would never in a million years have known. Whats more, you will share parts of people’s lives, the good and the scary, the emotional and inspirational… all through the words that you write and the words that you read”

Glad I hit ‘publish’…lol

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ohboymom May 24, 2013 at 7:23 pm

Glad you hit publish too! You are so right on about blogging never feeling like work…if it did, I think we wouldn’t last doing this. Unless of course we were making the big bucks… then we might last even if it felt like work. But then again, maybe not.

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Kate Hall May 25, 2013 at 8:56 am

I blog because I love to write too, Emily. I’ve got a book in the works too, about our adoption experiences with a humor slant, kind of like a memoir/travel book – sounds weird. I blog to build my platform too. I also tweet to build my platform. So many opportunities to share your stuff, but super time-consuming. :-)

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ohboymom May 25, 2013 at 12:53 pm

I think your book sounds great and unique! (And not at all weird!) I hope you’re continuing to work at it!

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Dana May 25, 2013 at 11:02 am

I’ll stay with you on this road, Emily. I have no book, and I didn’t even think of myself as a writer when I started blogging. I had no idea I was going to love it! If you ever decide to publish your book, you’ll have many eager readers, I’m sure.

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ohboymom May 25, 2013 at 12:51 pm

Thanks Dana and I feel just like you…I had no idea I would love blogging so much!

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Elizabeth May 26, 2013 at 12:06 am

This is so great. There are lots of us that feel that need to write. Doesn’t it feel good to write it all out and see the evolution of our own writing? I think your goals of having a regular writing gig is definitely a possibility for you. Your writing flows well and I look forward to reading more posts. So glad I found your blog through the FTSF linky! If you’d like to read about the evolution of my writing and why I blog, I’d love for you to check it out: http://thedepthofthemoment.wordpress.com/2013/05/24/making-me-feel-like-me/

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ohboymom May 27, 2013 at 8:55 pm

Thank you so much…just checked out (and commented on) your blog as well..great to find you too!

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Jen May 26, 2013 at 1:17 am

I am right there with you! Seems like we blog for the same reasons. Not so much the beginning reasons as the end reasons :-) I guess some people don’t love to write, but the bloggers I love are bloggers who love to write!

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ohboymom May 27, 2013 at 8:54 pm

Same with me — you can really tell if a blogger loves to write or if they are doing it for other reasons…thanks so much for finding my blog and commenting!

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Lisa Newlin May 28, 2013 at 1:48 am

I started blogging for the same reason! I also want to be a published author. I’d love to write humor books. That’s my dream; and believe me, I realize it’s a dream! But I guess all we can do is keep typing away and supporting each other, and maybe that’s all we really need: a way to express ourselves and something we do that’s just for us.

But it sure would be nice to get paid for it, wouldn’t it?! :-)

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ohboymom May 29, 2013 at 1:26 pm

I could totally see you publishing a humor book and I really hope you keep striving towards that goal…I’d definitely buy your book! :)

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Lisa Newlin May 29, 2013 at 10:38 pm

Well, I hope some day I get a book deal so I can hold you to this promise and make you buy it, read it, and then pimp it out.

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Melissa@Home on Deranged May 28, 2013 at 2:20 pm

I, too, love to write. But it’s fun for me! I mean, it’s just fun to sit here and let my thoughts roll out, editing as I go along or laughing at myself over a misspelled word. it’s been great to meet new people that I otherwise would never have crossed paths with and it’s given me a purpose outside of housewife/mom duties, but still, it’s just fun. :)

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ohboymom May 29, 2013 at 1:27 pm

You are right about the meeting of other people we never would have crossed paths with…that is such a big benefit of blogging and makes it so fun and interesting.

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Julia May 28, 2013 at 7:35 pm

Keep writing!!!!!!!!!!!! love it :)

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ohboymom May 29, 2013 at 1:24 pm

Thanks Julia…as always, I love your encouragement and support!

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Nina May 29, 2013 at 9:13 pm

“In the meantime, I’m going to keep on blogging because I not only love to write, but I need to write. And, I am curious to see where this journey takes me next.” —->That’s exactly how I feel!

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Karen May 29, 2013 at 9:50 pm

Wendy and I write for many of the reasons you mention, but in our case, there’s the added benefit/pressure of being sisters, and not wanting to let one another down. Plus, a lot of the time we’re just trying to make each other laugh…this is a great way for us to renew our lifelong bond, and have some really excellent fun together. :)

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