Newtown, CT Tragedy: A Star For One Little Boy

December 15, 2012 in Parenting

Candles for Newtown, CT

When I first heard about the horrific tragedy in Newtown, CT, my first impulse was to run, and I mean literally run, to my son’s elementary school and hold my 9-year old close to me and hug him tight. It took all my strength to stay put until 3pm when I usually pick him up. Normally, I wait in the car outside the school at a curbside pick-up location. Yesterday, I parked and walked to the school playground, where the kids are dismissed. I gave him the hug I so desperately wanted to give him all day and I could feel my anxiety slightly lessen.

All that any parent wants for their child is for him to be safe and healthy. Very often, we take our children’s safety for granted, until a tragedy so gruesome and incomprehensible makes us all feel instantly vulnerable. I’d throw myself in front of a car for my child if I had to. I’d put myself between my child and any possible harm to him if I had to. But, what about those situations where you are absolutely powerless?

I had my first small taste of that feeling during the Hurricane Sandy aftermath. We were without power for many days and our house was becoming colder and colder. Suddenly, keeping my kids warm was not a given, it was a challenge.  I was afraid for their health and well-being, as we slept night after night in a cold, dark house. I had no control over the situation and couldn’t protect my kids as I usually did. I was scared and upset.

The Newtown, CT tragedy brought that feeling of sadness and powerlessness to a whole new level. As my teenage son and I listened to a radio show earlier today, the town pastor was relating his conversation with one of the little boys whose sister had died at the hand of the gunman. The boy said he lost his best friend and would have no one to play with. The pastor explained to the boy that his sister was now safe in heaven. My throat burned and my tears fell as I listened to just one of many – too many – unbearably sad stories. My son, who usually shows little emotion, reached over to the radio dial and turned it off. He said, “I can’t listen to this.”

I am a relatively new blogger, who is a member of a hugely supportive blogging group called the “Bloppy Bloggers.” One of our members, Amy of Adorable Chaos, knows one of the families who lost a son, Ben. While we all expressed our immense grief at this senseless tragedy, we all kept saying how helpless we felt. As bloggers, who write regularly, we were all suddenly at a loss for words. But, we still wanted to help in any way we could. So, we’ve come together to raise some money to buy Ben a star, so that his family can look up at it and remember their sweet, little boy. Any leftover donations will be used to help with the funeral costs, a task that no parent should ever have to endure. Please click on the secure link below if you’d like to help and you will be directed to a site that has been set up with a Donate button. Whether you want to donate $5 or $50, any amount will help this family as they come to grips with this unthinkable nightmare. As the world continues to grieve for the twenty children and six adults we couldn’t keep safe from harm, I am gaining some comfort for being able to help in this one small way. Please consider joining me. Thank you.

Here’s the Link: Fabulous Blogging

{ 14 comments… read them below or add one }

Janine Huldie December 15, 2012 at 6:36 pm

You said it perfectly and could truly relate as a parent. I also related perfectly to the Hurricane Sandy emotions, as well with feeling so helpless and not being able to take care of my kids in the way I normally can. Thanks for sharing your take here and I have said it before today, but will say it again. Just so happy to know all of you and to be a part of our wonderful group of bloggers :)


ohboymom December 15, 2012 at 6:47 pm

Thanks Janine…I still feel like I can’t express my grief enough for such a tragic event, but I’m so glad our group is doing this effort. So happy to know you and the rest of our group as well!


Kelly December 15, 2012 at 7:10 pm

I echo your sentiments Emily. I wanted my kids home so I could hold them close the moment I learned about it. It’s so scary…I’m considering home schooling! Really…don’t you think so many parents are when they hear this junk? OMG! What’s the world coming to?

Thank you for writing about this and helping for the donation!


ohboymom December 15, 2012 at 8:05 pm

Thanks Kelly and I agree that I’m losing faith in our society — it’s scary. I’m glad we’re all a part of the donation effort – it helps ease the pain just a little bit.


Julie DeNeen December 15, 2012 at 7:43 pm

xox. I relate totally.


ohboymom December 15, 2012 at 8:03 pm

Thanks Julie, and again, so appreciate the effort you organized so quickly.


Roshni December 15, 2012 at 8:09 pm

Donated. Feeling so helpless and sorry that there is just so little that we can do.


ohboymom December 15, 2012 at 8:15 pm

Thank you so much Roshni and also wish we could do more. Every little gesture will help, I hope, in some small way.


Vikki Claflin December 16, 2012 at 6:54 pm

This was beautiful. Shared it on Twitter!


ohboymom December 16, 2012 at 10:20 pm

Thanks Vikki, I really appreciate it!


Lu December 17, 2012 at 2:16 am

Wonderful message. I found you by way of Bloggy Moms.


ohboymom December 17, 2012 at 2:26 am

Thank you so much…will go check out your blog too now!


Rich Rumple December 17, 2012 at 7:14 am

I hate to say it, but the proof of your son’s “not wanting to listen to it” should make you proud. I only hate to say that because of the event and the timing, not his act. He, obviously understands the difference of right and wrong and knows in his heart that there was no reason for the event to ever have taken place. You’ve done one hell of a job raising him. I know it’s tough at this time of grief, but again, be proud of yourself and the job you’ve done, and of him and how he’s accepted your efforts. Really a strong post.


ohboymom December 17, 2012 at 1:53 pm

Thanks Rich, I really appreciate it. I think we all question our parenting from time to time, so when our kids do something that make us proud, at least we know we’re doing some things right.:)


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